Listen with your eyes Published May 1, 2013 By Master Sgt. Jeffrey Meehl 9th Logistics Readiness Squadron BEALE AIR FORCE BASE, -- Many of us will never go through something so traumatic, that it forever changes who we are at the core. I truly hope none of us ever do. However, the nature of the duties that we perform as an expeditionary force in pursuit of air power, inherently create situations that require us to face unimaginable events. That's not to say that extreme situations are limited to the AOR. Trauma can come at us head-on at any given moment, regardless of where we are. It's the potential effects that such experiences can leave behind that every single Airman has a responsibility to be mindful of. Post Traumatic Stress is real and can be detrimental in many ways when not properly diagnosed. Last year, I had the privilege of being the acting First Sergeant for the 9th Logistics Readiness Squadron. In that time, I've learned more-so than ever before in my career, that even the strongest of Airmen sometimes need a little help. More importantly, they won't always just come right out and ask for it, no matter how comfortable the relationship. As hard as it may be to believe, with all of the screenings, publicized programs, helping agencies and resiliency training, someone sitting right next to you may not be getting the help he or she needs. So how do we get the help for someone who doesn't ask for it? I like to think I'm a good listener. Not everyone is fully involved and engaged with all of the people around them. For that reason, whether you are a brand new Airman or a 30 year Chief, a Second Lieutenant or a General Officer, we all have to listen with our eyes. If we see something that is out of character from one of our fellow Airmen, we need to do the right thing. I'm sure we would all rather pull someone aside and have a slightly uncomfortable private conversation, than to let an issue go unaddressed. If you don't feel as if you have the ability to help, by all means , identify the issue to your supervisor or First Sergeant. Direct the person to the Airmen and Family Readiness Center. You don't have to be the expert or have all the answers. Of course, ALWAYS be aware of the red flags that could indicate someone's ideation to do harm to themselves or others! Maybe they are just having an off day, but then again, you noticing that little inconsistency might just be the reason that they get the help that they need. If the problem is beyond your ability, rely on those basic Wingman skills and trust your instincts. Help that person by doing the "reaching out" for them when they can't find the strength. Never leave an Airman behind.